Interspersed among the many nice comments to my “By Maricopa / Hello NMC” post, was one comment that ended up addressing directly with the writer, rather than in the comment stream.
Gemma had commented (likely via the first place to write) about her displeasure that I had used a screen shot and a link to her LJ site as one of my examples of “blogs as diaries” in my 2005 presentation on “More Than Cat Diaries”:
You never asked for my permission to put a screenshot of my site up on your presentation on online diaries. You never asked for my permission to link to my site. Whether you read it or not is not the issue here. My site is as private as I can make it and I do not appreciate the fact that youâ€™ve used it without so much as even letting me know, and then put up a link for all to see, and use. It would have been common courtesy to at least ask. I doubt youâ€™ll do anything about it, but I found it and couldnâ€™t just sit back and not say anything.
And in part she was right, and I was wrong, badly wrong. I had used the screenshot of her blog, without asking permission or letting her know, something I should know better than doing. It is a courtesy worth extending. So I emailed her privately and apologized for that piece, and as requested, removed the links to her site. However, I did let her know that there is NO requirement of asking permission to hyperlink from my site to any publicly available URL, and pondered if she had done the same for every link in her site.
She has since emailed back her thanks, and appreciation for me at least paying attention to the situation:
I really appreciate it, and to be honest, most people probably would have just ignored me.
And buried in all of this is once more iota about the specialness of the insanely, wildly connected, messy human web network… the power and role of listening and responding humanly is what makes up for all the slimy spam, drivel, ad-crapped, crud of the net.
Taking the time for an individual response, even short, even cut and pasted, is important to me as a netizen. We all are craving to be heard, and even more so acknowledged. it’s the giving and receiving that is the virtuous economy of the web, not Google rank or Technorati chips. I may tattoo it on my arm to remember how key this is. Do the right thing, Over and over.
Thanks for the connection, Gemma. Blog on, blog on, blog on.