I’m not talking about anyone in particular, so stop getting all defensive and looking for DMs you’ve ignored (no you should go look).
But if you are such a freaking big shot that you cannot reply to someone’s message, especially if you have had prior ones, well you are saying, “I am important… and you are not.”
We get a large amount of impersonal communications. I can tell the auto generated emails that are sent by machines. It fails to make me feel warm inside.
Last week, i was working on a web site where I was failing to get a scheduled script to run (I know how to cron, but the host seemed to have de-activated useful tools like wget and curl). I had remembered using web services that do this, and the second one I tried (the first one said free, but that was 30 days before an upsell kicks in). I ended up using SetCronJob.
It just worked.
The next day I got an email:
Hi Alan Levine,
I just wanted to see how things are going with your SetCronJob account email@example.com.
Is everything working to your satisfaction?
Please feel free to let me know if you have any question :-)
Nguyen An Thuan.
Now this very much could be generated by a script. Maybe it was. But I replied.
Yes it is, this is working perfectly on a webhost not set up for curl or wget
to which I got a reply
I’m glad that it works for you :-)
If you need any help, feel free to email me.
Nguyen An Thuan.
This is called a human communication. I like it. It makes me feel nice. I feel heard, maybe te most understated and mis managed human communication pattern- being acknowledged. Do you know how huge that is?
It may matter a hill of pinto beans, and maybe for a giant conglomerate responding individually to emails does not scale.
I am not interested in that kind of scaling.
I know at some level it might be impossible for people to respond to messages. They may have to have responder robots, or exective assistances who scan their messages, or turn their email off when they travel. Such a burden to have that much communication coming in.
I hope to stay well below that level. I will respond to everything sent my way (except spam) (well sometimes spam cause its fun). I likely have trouble knowing when to stop responding.
This is how I roll. What you do is your gig.
I don’t want to be that dude above in the photo.
Guess what keyword I used to find him in compfight.com?
The post "If You Are Too Busy To Reply to A Message, Then You are Sending a Message" was originally pulled like taffy through a needle's eye at CogDogBlog (http://cogdogblog.com/2013/07/sending-a-message/) on July 1, 2013.